ImageIf any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him. Only it must be in faith that he asks with no wavering (no hesitating, no doubting). For the one who wavers (hesitates, doubts) is like the billowing surge out at sea that is blown hither and thither and tossed by the wind. James 1:5-6

We’ve all heard of couples signing prenuptial agreements before getting married. A legal document established before marriage that is intended to protect each person’s interests, possessions, finances, etc., in case the marriage doesn’t work out. Many have said that ‘prenupts’ go beyond just the material possessions of each person, but really are saying to each other, ‘Although we are getting married, I don’t know if I really trust that you are going to have my best interests in mind. So, in case this doesn’t work out, I want to protect myself.’ Now, there are areas in business relationships that this might be of benefit, but in a marriage relationship, it could definitely created some issues.

Often, although maybe unintentionally, we do this same thing in our relationship with God. We come into the relationship, knowing we want and need Him, but we have our reservations; our limited trust, belief and reliance that He is who He said He is, He can do what He says He can do and we are who He says we are. So, as a result, we hold part of ourselves back from Him. We created a one-sided, unwritten prenuptial agreement with God. In the way we pray, obey and interact with others, we are in a sense telling Him, ‘I do want to be your bride, but there are some areas of my life that existed before you and I were together that I’d really like to keep to myself just in case we don’t work out.’ I know it sounds a bit looney thinking like this in terms of our relationship with God, but it is easy to do; even if done unintentionally or sub-consciously.

ImageAs James persuades us in the above scriptures, God wants our relationship to work out and He wants too bless us through it by giving to us ‘liberally’, His wisdom and His understanding. He brought His all to the relationship when He gave up His Son on the cross for us and He is asking us to give our all in return. That is a healthy relationship. One sided pre-nupts don’t work. And I can promise you that in this relationship, we most definitely ‘married up’! James continues by encouraging us that when we ask of God, we must do so in faith; all in, holding nothing back. For if we don’t, it is like wanting to be married, but not really trusting our partner. We waver, hesitate and doubt. As it would be difficult to grow a strong marriage like that, so is it difficult for us to gain from God what we need to be whole and healthy in this life when we aren’t ‘all in’ and learn to trust Him fully, lean on Him completely and rely on Him in everything.


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