Ever Just Wanna ‘Thump’ Somebody?

Posted: September 29, 2010 in Family Ties - relationships
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Every Just Wanna Thump Somebody?

I’d love to say that through out my life I’ve always handled conflict and problems well, but I’d be lying… so I won’t.  I remember through out grade school there were times that I’d get picked on, pushed around, called names – provoking anger, tears, etc.  I remember some circumstances that really stirred some pretty harsh reactions in me. On was on the phone the other night with an old friend and classmate from grade school who reminded me of a specific incident when I got so mad from getting picked on that I started beating the crap out of another kid – to the point that I picked up a piece of pipe ready to start swinging (I didn’t by the way – I just went home crying). There have been times as an adult when I’ve been bitter, resentful and just plain mad at people because of their actions, lack of actions or behaviors toward me.  I am sure that many of you have had similar experiences.

The biblical story of king Saul and David is a great example of a relationship that was definitely full of conflict and on several different levels.  Saul was in conflict with God because of his disobedience.  David was in conflict with Saul because Saul was jealous of David.   Saul was in conflict with himself because he was more focused on pleasing the people than pleasing God.  However, what’s amazing about this story is that as Saul’s intensity for wanting to kill David seemed to increase, it also gave David opportunities to show himself the “better man”.   Many times over the course of their turbulent relationship, David had the opportunity to kill Saul and could have easily justified doing so based upon how Saul had been treating him if not merely for David’s own life preservation.  But, David chose not to give in to the temptation.  As a result, David grew stronger in the midst of the conflict. Why?  Here are several key points that we can learn from David to help us properly handle conflict and problems that arise in our own lives:

  1. David didn’t make Saul’s problem his problem. David recognized that Saul’s anger was because of his own actions and disobedience toward God. David knew that Saul was God’s problem – not his.
  2. David learned that he could trust God – no matter what – even with his own life and he made the decision to do just that.
  3. David learned that prayer – going to God first with his problems, conflicts and fears was the best thing he could do.  Reading through the book of Psalm, it is clear that David cried out to God many, many times for help.
  4. Obedience to God’s Word is crucial to being able to handle conflict in an appropriate manner.  God said of David that he was a man after God’s own heart.  David cherished God’s Word and devoted himself to being obedient the best he could (and we know that he still stumbled).
  5. When given the opportunity, David confronted Saul one on one.  He was direct with Saul on how he felt, but expressed himself with love and humility.

David’s actions in handling conflict with others is a great example for us to follow.  He learned to discern when the battle truly belonged to God and let God handle his own.  David learned to trust God, pray to Him first, the importance of obedience and doing everything in love and humility.  Jesus said in John 16:33 that in this world we will have trouble… so knowing that it is going to come, let’s be people after God’s own heart and strive to handle conflict in a healthy manner.


excerpts used from Sunday morning sermons at Richland Assembly of God church – Pastor’s Wes Lindseth & Ryan Smith


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